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Healthy For You – Relaxing With Prayer

prayer, bible, spiritual, family, living apart

Life can change at any moment in our life. Right when you think everything is going great something happens and changes everything. Your plans get canceled or they change. Either for the good or for the bad. That is a lesson that we all go through in life. There are lessons to be learned. Sometimes we learn from them and sometimes we don’t. Sometimes we go through life’s lesson over and over until we get it. Life goes around in a circle and keeps going around until we stop it by learning the lesson. Don’t let life get you down and get you stuck. Learn the lesson, pick up the pieces and move on. It can be healthy for you when you relax with prayers.

MY SPIRITUAL JOURNEY – LIFE CHANGES

My spiritual journey started at a young age. It has led to many life changes. Some changes were for the good and were a blessing. Some changes were not so good and I had to learn the lesson. My spiritual walk with Jesus is full of life’s lessons. As I am going through life I am learning how to appreciate the world around me, my family, friends and the people I come in contact with. I am also learning how to love and respect everyone.

In my experience I have learned that we need to make small changes that can lead up to bigger changes. Taking little steps every day helps making the change easier.

Sometimes we may believe that the change is not necessary at the time until someone points it out to us.

I read my bible everyday now for many years. There are times I stray away but I get back on track. A few years ago I started my spiritual journey by praying daily. I have had some tragic personal issues happen and that’s when I started relaxing myself so I could meditate and pray more often. I asked for things to change in my life.

Devastating Times Ahead

It all started when I lost my job and my husband business slowed down. Money was getting tight. At the same time we were in the process of losing our place to live due to family health reasons. We were having a hard time to find another place to live around where we were living.

We didn’t box, boxeswant the kids to change school, but it didn’t work out that way. Our income decreased due to me losing my job and our credit was poor. So my kids and I were encouraged to move in with family that lived far away from my husband and our friends.

My husband stayed behind living in a hotel because he didn’t want to close his business right away. He wanted to give it some more time to pick up. He didn’t want all of us to live in a hotel. He wasn’t sure for how long so we both decided it would be a temporary move for us and we would be together soon. We moved to San Bernardino county with his family. We were very sad to be moving in with family. We had to do this until we could be together again.

TEMPORARY MOVE – FAMILY’S HOUSE

journey-trip-travel-destinyOur life journey led us to San Bernardino to live with my husband’s family. This was a temporary move for us until we got back on our feet again. This was around December 2015. We arrived at our family’s house. We were welcomed with opened arms. They said don’t worry about anything we will help you out. They also said that we will be okay and everything will work out for the better. My husband assured me that we will be together soon and he would come and visit often.

Well I thought to myself we need to get settled in and unpack our suite cases. They let me and my daughters share one of their daughter’s room. My son shared with his cousin which was around the same age. They also said that one of my daughters could share with the other cousin and she was around the same age too

redroom, room, bedSo it worked out and it gave us the space that we needed to live comfortable. We were grateful to have a safe and comfortable place to live until things got better. This temporary move to our family’s house was not easy for us but made us realize that we need to appreciate the things we have in our lives because at any moment we could lose it.

PLAN OF ACTION – TO ENROLL KIDS IN SCHOOL

I made a plan of action to enroll the kids in school. First on my agenda was enrolling my two high school students. One was a junior and the other a senior. They were so lucky that they didn’t have to start school until after plan of action-things to do-list of things to dothe holidays because of the way their credit system worked. It was different from the school that they went to before. Their semester only had two weeks left anyways. So the counselor said they could start in January.

Second on my list was getting my son enrolled in middle school with his cousin. He was going into the 7th grade. He was given his books and a chrome book to bring home to do homework. That was easy to do.

Third on my list was enrolling my baby girl in elementary school. She was going into the 3rd grade. She was happy to be able to have new friends.

This was a little scary for all of them to be going into a new school and to be a new students but they were able to adjust.

Next on my list was to find us doctors, a dentist and an eye doctor that we could go to. I transferred our records over. It took some time but it got done. I was able to make us all appointments for check-ups. That was pretty much what I had to do with my plan of action and to get settled in our family’s house.

EVERYDAY – CHALLENGED

Everyday was a challenge to be under our family’s roof. If you have lived with family you probable already know how it is. You really don’t feel comfortable. It felt like I was being watched everyday like was doing something wrong. It was very stressful for me and it was hard to please everyone. Everyone had different personalities and attitudes. It was hard for me to adjust. I was getting irritated and frustrated. I was praying everyday to have our own place again.

clean, cleaning, houseEveryday I tried to keep calm and told myself this is only a temporary move to our family’s house. I needed to do what I could to keep peace in our family. Which was difficult at times with all the kids. All of our kids had different personalities and attitudes that we had to deal with each one separately. Every night I would relax myself with a prayer by looking out our window and looking up at the stars. I was desperately waiting daily for my husband come to live with us. So we could be a family again and get our own place.

THE SCHOOLS – SAN BERNARDINO

The schools in San Bernardino are very clean and organized. They are very protective of all of their students. They seem to care more for the safety of their students. They were strict with their safety policies. Each student was provided with a chrome book to bring home so there were no excuses for not turning in homework.desk, classroom, school

MY DAILY ROUTINE – AT FAMILY’S HOUSE

My daily routine at my family’s house started out by getting up at 6:00 am. I then took my shower, woke up the kids, helped my younger one get ready, made breakfast, packed their snacks and took the kids to school. They all entered and got out of school at different times. So I was always coming and going throughout the day. After I dropped of the kids at school, I would read my Bible for about 30 minutes and then relax myself with a prayer. I did my part to help clean the house and cook for the family. My husband helped with the rent, bills and food. At this time in our life I was receiving assistance so it also helped with whatever we needed.

HARD TO FIND WORK – BEING RESPONSIBLE

I tried so hard to look for work but their were not too many jobs. It was also hard because of the school schedule everyone getting out at different times. My sister-in-law was taking care of an older lady and her mom. I didn’t want to give her more responsibilities of taking care of my kids. My husband said don’t worry about it to just take care of the kids.

My husband came to visit every couple of weeks. It was a long drive for him. He stayed the weekend and then went back to work. We didn’t like being away from each other. We called each other everyday. It was hard for both of us. Everyday felt like there was something missing. I felt alone and depressed. I know deep down inside I had to be responsible and keep going forward with the plan.

PRAYING – PLANS CHANGED

Everyday I started taking time out to relax with prayers. praying-bible-spiritual-healingI would pray about many things but my main concentration was on when we could be together as a family again. Many months passed and our plans changed. My husband’s business was picking up again. He decided that it wouldn’t be a good idea for him to close his business and move. He purchased a RV to live in instead of sleeping in a hotel. It saved him some money.

I was tired of living without my husband and living with family. I decided when the kids were out for summer vacation we were moving back. I packed up our stuff. We said our goodbye and thank you. Took the kids and we went back to live with my husband in the RV. I told my husband it is better to live all together in our own little and tight place in the RV. Then living in with family and being separate from each other. In the RV we lived in peace and were very comfortable.

I continue to relax with prayers everyday. After one year we found a house to rent.

I AM GRATEFUL FOR WHAT I HAVE – ANSWERED PRAYERS

You know that living with family can be very stressful even when they make you feel comfortable. It is not the same as living in your own place. Even though our life doesn’t go the way we want it to go. I have always believed that everything happens for a reason and there is a lesson to be learned. We all should appreciate what we have because you never know when you may not have it anymore. I am grateful for what I have and my answered prayers. We have a place to live together again. It was a hard time in our life to live apart from each other but we survived it. I am glad that I took the time to relax with prayers and thanks to GOD that he answered my prayers.

MY LIFE CHANGED – RELAXING WITH PRAYER

My life changed it was a step backwards for our family but it was a lesson to be learned. Even though our life changed we didn’t let it get us down for too long. We dealt with the situation and then we got back on track. Do whatever it takes to make your dreams and goals come true. Life is full of surprises. Take one day at a time.

STEP – HOW TO PRAY.

  • You need to find a quite time in the day to pray.
  • You need to find a quite place to pray.
  • You need to find what you want to pray about.

Begin your prayer buy addressing the Almighty GOD. You can speak out loud, in silent, while thinking it or you can sing your prayers. Some of your prayers can be recited from your memory, read from a book or it can be like a normal conversation speaking from your heart. You need to open your prayer by calling upon GOD and then asking for his help. It can be anywhere you want and at anytime of the day. He is always listening.

STEP – TO READ YOUR BIBLE

  • You need to find a quite time in the day to read your Bible.
  • You need to find a quite place to read.
  • You need to find what you wan to read about.
  • Try to read daily and for at least 10 to 15 min.

Begin your reading with a prayer and asking GOD to give you understanding of what you are reading. Ask him to guide you and inspire you as you read. You can pick and chose on what you want to read about or you can let GOD guide you through you emotions that you are having that day. You can use a study guides or join a study group. It is all up to you. Just remember the more you read the better you will know GOD.

My Word of Advice.

***I am only telling you this from my experiences in life that it is healthy for you to relax with prayers. I am not suggesting that you to do it. It depends on your beliefs. I am only giving you advice on what worked for me.

Questions To Ask Yourself.

  • The choices you make in life will it help you?
  • What are you grateful for?
  • How has your life changed through prayer?
  • What can you do when you are stuck?

I would love to hear your response to these questions above. Leave them in the comment below.

If you have any questions or concerns please leave a comment below. I will get back with you as soon as I can.

To your health,

Mary

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Healthy For You – Relaxing With Meditation

Meditation, chakra, yoga

chakra, meditation, yogaMy life changed through meditation and this is the story. I am creative with a sensitive and emotional spirit. A person who is a push over and no voice. A habit of always doing things for people without thinking about myself. Which is a good thing don’t get me wrong but sometimes people like to take advantage of us when they can. The moment we show weakness that is when they get you. We all need to know our boundaries.

I love reading books about how we can be healthier and how we can improve, books on nutrition, cook books which gives us good healthy eating and of course, my favorite is reading and studying the bible.

My Busy Day – Everyday

Everyday started out by waking everyone up early. Sometimes it took me to tell them more than once. The younger daughter I helped get ready. I picked out her clothes, helped her get dressed, I put her hair into a pony tail. They would grab some snacks and eat breakfast at school. It took time for everyone to get ready. The first stop is my youngest daughter’s school, the next stop is my son’s high school and the last stop is my two older daughter’s college. Then I was back on the road and going home to wake up my husband. We drank coffee andcoffee, togeter, drink, cup breakfast together. This is the time we could sit down and talk to each other. Then we gave each other kisses and blessed each other to have a safe day. Then he was off to work I was reading my bible. When I finished reading, I Looked around the house and said to myself you got to be kidding me, a mess in every room that I had to clean up. Stuff to be put away, clothes to be picked up and put away, piles of clothes to be washed, sink full of dishes, sweeping and moping, clean the stove, clean refrigerator, wipe down everything, clean bathroom, living room because the younger daughter made a mess with her art stuff, fix up the bedroom and then cook dinner. This was my busy day every day.

I usually had the house cleaned and dinner ready before I picked up the kids. First I picked up my youngest and her friends and brought them home. Second I picked up my son and his friend and brought his friend home. clean, cleaning, houseMy last pick up are my two college students. My van was full of kids. I dropped off the younger daughter and her brother at home with their grandma. My older daughters would like to go shopping and do errands with me. We got home from shopping we would put the groceries away. At this time everyone was stressed and arguing because we had to put the stuff away in a hurry because my husband was coming home soon. Sometime it was being a referee.

food, dinner, beef, broccoli After getting everyone to calm down we getting ready for their dad to come home. We always made the point to have dinner together. I cleaned up after dinner. I help my younger daughter with her homework, help her take a shower and off to bed she goes. I checked to see if my son needed help. He usually did it by himself. Sometime I helped my two college students with their homework. At this time I have other household duties like wash, dry and fold clothes, sweep and mop. I am exhausted from the days work. I spend some time with my honey and off to bed we go.

This was a typical day in my house.

***This did not include running around paying bills and the many times we had doctor appointments, dental appointments, in and out of hospital for “So Called Emergency” at least once a month with our big family.

My Thoughts – To Myself

thinking, thoughts My thoughts to myself every day were, there’s got to be more to life than this. I felt like a robot like the one on the Jetson cartoons (back in the 80’s old school). I was doing everyone else chores around me and I was getting irritated, worn out, exhausted and I had lost touch of myself. Everyone life accomplishments seemed better than mine. I felt depressed, sad, ignored, and taken for granted. I was doing for everyone else except for myself. My thoughts were this is what a mother and wife should be doing. I didn’t feel like I was accomplishing anything. I felt like I didn’t have a life. No purpose. Not living just doing what I had to do.

Often times I would have discussion with my husband and he told me that I needed to tell the kids to help out. They were old enough to do their own stuff. He would tell my voice didn’t have a value. I got mad when he said that but it was true. My kids would not listen. They were always on their phones, watching movies or playing games. The older one worked so I didn’t ask her to help but she helped me anyways. The others would help but I had to argue with them before it got done. They said that they would do it later and later came and it was not done. This made me made because I wanted things to be done when I asked. My life was not going the way I wanted it to.

I Was Invisible – No Voice

I was invisible. No voice at all. Being a stay at home mom to with four beautiful and wonderful kids I came to an understanding that I had become a community driver and a salve to cleaning house. No longer in control of my goals and dreams. I was Living in another person’s life not my own. I thought to myself I am no longer going to be invisible and my voice will be heard. I had to make some changes. I made a decision it was time for a family meeting. I explained to everyone that they need to help around the house more so I can have some time to do what I wanted.speak, see, hear, monkeys

A Wakening – No Vision

I woke up one morning vision was blurred. I couldn’t see normally. My family’s faces were blurry. I couldn’t see to read, clean, cooking and especially driving. I had to buy stronger reading glasses so I could see. Being scared and not know what to do or what was going on. Later that morning shaking and feeling really nervous. I thought maybe I should check blood sugar level. Checking numbers often. Diet and exercise controlled my numbers. Knowing this runs in the family. Guess what??? My fasting glucose sky rocked to 458. This really made me worry because I never had my numbers that high before. My highest are between 140 to 160.

I told my husband what was happening to me and he said I need to go to the doctor. So I made an appointment. My doctor told me that my A1C was off the chart at 13% and I needed to take medicine to bring numbers down. He also said I need to release my stress level. Thinking to myself I am not taking this medicine. Treats one Meditation, chakra, yogathing and cause another. I went and got the medicine anyways and started to take them. I didn’t like taking my medicine because it makes my stomach hurt. My numbers went down a little but not too much. I kept thinking I need to find another way to bring numbers down. So I started to research. I already knew that diet and exercise helps. I found out that we can use certain herbs and spices would bring blood sugars down and that meditation can help us to relax which will help bring our stress level down and lower numbers.

***I am not telling you not to take your medicine***

***You need to talk to your doctor and find what is best for you***

My Spiritual Healing – Mind Over Our Body

My spiritual healing through meditation is coming with practicing and learning daily. My husband loves studying metaphysics, meditation and spiritual healing. It’s been his passion and he is always telling me that we can heal ourselves by thinking positive and that we need to get rid of the negative energy. He say it is our mind over our body. I always thought this was true but has been hard acting upon it being so busy. So he said I am going to heal you. I said okay. He started to teach me how to meditate. We started listening to sounds and vibrations together. We did some breathing techniques that helped me to release my tension I was feeling and helped me to relax. In our journey of meditation we met this very nice couple and they are helping and teaching us how to align our chakra. They showed us how to use a singing bowl. We bought one and took it home to singing bowl, bowl, meditation, yoga, chakrapractice meditation with it. By listening to the sound it helped all of us to relax. I practice daily to get in touch with my inner self. My vision started coming back. There are still some things I am not able to see but it is a lot better.

My Life Changed – Important To Relax and Meditate

My life has changed and my health has improved through meditation. I am still in the learning process about meditation. I know how important it is to relax every day. We need to take time out of our busy day to just relax. Relaxing can be in any form. Meditation is only one of many ways to relax. So let take the time to relax and we will feel a lot better.

If you have any questions or concerns please leave comment below and I will response as soon as I can.

To your health,

Mary

 

 

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Healthy For You – Relaxing With Candles

floating-wedding-candle

candle, floral candle, We all have our scents that makes us feel good and scents that remind us of troubles. Scented candles are one of the easiest and most effective ways to cover odors in our house. Relaxing with candles create a relaxing environment to let go all of our tension after having a long day at work. The calming of candle light makes us feel warm and cozy inside. The candle flame that helps soothe our soul which reduces stress. Swaying of the flame helps us to calm down and achieve a meditative mind set. The flicker of flame of light that comes from the candle is caught by our sight and it is sent to our minds for processing. When we look at this light our body begins to relax and helps us feel emotionally and physically.

JUST IMAGE – RELAXING WITH CANDLESrelaxing, candle

Just picture yourself coming home on a hard day of work and all you want to do is relax as soon as you can. You put on some comfortable clothes, cook some dinner for the family, clean around the house and get the kids ready for bed. Then you light up some of your favorite scented candles. You sit back in your favorite chair, inhale deeply and smell your favorite candle.

You can just picture yourself coming home and change into your comfortable clothes do some lite cooking, clean up a bit. Take care of the kids and put them to bed. Then lite some of your favorite scented candles and take a nice hot bath with bubbles. Then close your eyes and let your nose smell the sweet aromas. This will totally relax every muscle in your body and release all the tension you are feeling in your mind and body.

Nothing is better than lighting a candle, putting on soft music and listening to your favorite music and making some hot cocoa or hot herbal tea, reading a book while sitting on your favorite comfy chair with a soft warm blanket next to the crackling fire smelling your favorite seasonal candle on a cold, windy, and rainy day.

RELAXING WITH CANDLES – MY FAVORITE TIMErelaxing, candle

My favorite time relaxing with candles is one of my favorite things to do. I just love to light a candle anytime of day or night. I like looking at the flames. My deep breathing technique to smell my favorite candle it puts me in a place where I can completely relax. Then I am in relaxing mode and everybody know to leave me alone.

My perfect time to relax with a candle is on a cool breeze summer night. Being outdoors in my backyard sitting on my patio chair with my feet up on the other chair. Drinking a tall glass of ice tea or lemonade. Having my favorite candle on the table while enjoying looking up at the billions of twinkling stars. Feeling the fresh air cooling my body down from the hot summer day.

When I go to a store I would make the point to stop and smell the of candles on display. When I am tempted to buy a candle it would be hard for me to just pick one. I could spend hours just smelling all the candles. I love getting lost with all the smells. My kids would get tired of waiting for me that they would direct to where we need to go instead of me seeing and smelling all the candles. Sometimes they would let me go to the store by myself which made me happy because that would give more time to smell the candles.

CANDLE – HEALTH BENEFITS

There are health benefits of burning candles. They can benefit to your health. It is part of a healthy lifestyle that takes care of your mind. Candle burning can provide the perfect scene. It will calm all of our senses and this will be for the good of our health. Candles with essential oils can fill our home with a soft aroma that can allow our minds to relax and help with our mental health. It doesn’t matter how we choose to use our candles. Candles make us feel relaxed and this can lead to more energy, better sleep. It can improve our immune system. We can have less pain and be more happy. Candles have health benefits in a lot of ways.night, candle

CANDLE – SPIRITUAL BENEFITS

Burning candles in our home especially in the room where we spend a lot of our time have very good for our overall healthy and are spiritual benefits. For many years candles have been used in many religious and spiritual traditions. Lighting a candle is a ritual and a symbol for spiritual ceremonies. It calms and clears the mind so we can allow ourselves to focus on our thoughts. By doing this it can help us get closer spiritually and make us feel calm and relaxed. This can also make us feel at peace with ourselves. Mediation can provide your senses of spirituality.

***The Dangers – Candles

The dangers of candles that are made with lead-core wicks. They release five times the amount of lead and are considered to be very harmful. They could cause us to be sick or cause cancer to us and our families. Read all labels when buying candles.

 ***Warning!!! If we light candles daily and many years or just smelling them frequently can give off dangerous pollutants in the air that could give us health risks like allergies, asthma and even cancer.

The safe candles that use a cotton paper wick made with 100% soy, beeswax, coconut wax, hemp oil or some combination that doesn’t contain any paraffin in it. These candles can be with essential oils and can be either unscented or scented.

My Favorite Candle – Scents

  • Citrus – The smell of oranges, tangerine, lemon and grapefruit.
  • Fruity – The smell of strawberry, blueberries, raspberries & cherry.
  • Floral – The smell of lavender, orchids, jasmine & rose.
  • There are other smells I enjoy like mint, cucumber & melon.

 

The Different Candle – Sizes

  • Small
  • Medium
  • Large

The Various Candle – Shapes heart, candle

  • Cylinder
  • Circle
  • Square
  • Triangle
  • Rectangle
  • Animal
  • Heart
  • Flower

The Many Candle – Colors color, candle

  • White Traditional
  • Black
  • Red
  • Blue
  • Green
  • Purple
  • Orange
  • Pink
  • Yellow

The Candle Types pillar, candle

  • Taper Candles
  • Floating Candles
  • Tea Light
  • Mason Jar Solar power LED flame-less candles
  • Tumbler Candles
  • Pillar
  • Votives
  • Soy Candles
  • Battery Operated

The Candle For Special Occasionsbirthday, birth, candle

 

  • Birthday
  • Anniversary
  • Wedding
  • Funeral
  • Religion
  • Seasonal
  • Holiday
  • Special Events

My Opinion On Candles

Doing this research on candles has taught me how to be cautious when buying candles. My opinion I will continue to buying candles. I will read the label before I smell and buy them from now on. Candles still have a lot of health benefits to our overall healthy lifestyles. They are still soothing and relaxing. I enjoy having a candle near me in whatever room I am in like the bathroom, bedroom, kitchen and the living room. Candles can brighten up any room with its glow. Candles can quickly fill our home with a combination of fragrances and a nice warm light. It will make us feel more pleasant and relaxed. They come in a wide variety of scents, colors, shapes, and sizes. There are many kinds of candles. So make your choices and be careful.

If you have questions or concern please leave a comment below and I will get back with as soon as I can.

 

To Your Healthy Life,

Mary